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These days, “becoming that girl” feels like a trend. Every other girl is chasing that perfect glow-up — the flawless skin, perfect body, sharp jawline, dream morning routine, and aesthetically pleasing life. And in this race, they’re unknowingly punishing themselves. They compare every inch of their body, their face, their outfits — and in doing so, they forget one important thing:

You are already beautiful.

Sometimes, all you need is a little polish, a little care — not endless comparison. You don’t need to be someone else to feel worthy. The truth is, this constant race to be “that girl” can make you lose your own essence.

I’ve been there too. I tried following everything — the skin routines, the trending aesthetics, the morning schedules. But eventually, I realized something powerful:

You don’t become your best self by blindly copying someone else.

You become that girl by becoming yourself — with more peace, more presence, and more growth. That shift didn’t come from adding more things to my life. It came from letting go.

So here are the things I stopped doing — not just to look better, but to feel better, live calmer, and protect my peace.

Things I Stopped Doing to Become That Girl (And Protect My Peace)

1. Letting Others’ Opinions Control Me

I used to constantly think, “What will they say?” before doing anything. That fear made me shrink myself and second-guess every move. But slowly, I learned — people will think whatever they want. You can’t control that.

Some of this credit goes to my best friend — she’s wise beyond her age. She once told me, “Just do what you want. Let them think what they want.” And it clicked.

But here’s my twist on it: don’t completely ignore what others think. The way people perceive you does matter — it's how you earn or lose respect. Balance is everything. Protect your peace, but don’t shut off the world completely.

2. Ignoring My Emotions

I grew up in a family that wasn’t emotionally expressive. I didn’t even know how to feel my own feelings. But then I met a friend who was so open — she never held back her emotions. At first, I thought, “This is so dramatic.” But later I realised, it’s actually healthy.

Now, I’m learning to be emotionally aware. I may not be perfect at expressing everything yet, but I’m doing better. And that’s a huge step forward. Emotional awareness is not weakness — it’s strength.

3. Not Caring About My Looks or Outfits

There were times I didn’t care about my appearance at all. I’d walk out looking however, thinking it didn’t matter. But deep inside, I wasn’t feeling confident.

Growing up, I was surrounded by people who constantly commented on looks — including some relatives and classmates. It made me insecure. Yes, looks do matter, but only to a healthy extent. When it becomes draining, it's not worth it.

Now, I love dressing up for myself — not to impress others, but because it boosts my mood. I also remind myself: it’s okay to have bad hair days, lazy fits, and no-makeup faces. I’m human. I can’t be “perfect” all the time. And that's the most freeing part.

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4. Watching Drama That Drained Me

I used to be glued to the TV. I watched everything — the good, the toxic, the totally useless. But I didn’t realise how much those dramatic shows were shaping my mindset. They made me feel low, unmotivated, and honestly… a little cheap.

Now, I’ve become super conscious of what I consume. What you watch, read, and scroll through — it all programs your mind. So I choose content that makes me feel light, calm, and inspired. What you feed your brain is just as important as what you feed your body.

5. Feeling Ashamed for Not Knowing Something

I was always seen as the “smart girl.” The one who knew everything. So when I didn’t know something, I felt embarrassed. I thought I’d look dumb. I’d avoid asking questions just to protect that image.

But then I heard this quote: “If you ask, you might look dumb for a few minutes. But if you don’t, you’ll stay dumb forever.” That hit hard.

Now, I proudly say, “I don’t know, can you explain it?” Because learning is power. No one knows everything — and that’s okay. Growth mindset is everything.

6. Doubting Myself Constantly

There was a time when I couldn’t stop questioning myself. I complained to God about everything — about my life, about me. I was drowning in self-doubt and didn’t even realise how toxic it had become.

Then one day, I downloaded a gratitude app — and that small step changed my life. It shifted my mindset. I stopped focusing on what I lacked and started noticing everything I had. That’s when my healing started. That’s when I began protecting my peace.

7. Speaking Negatively to Myself

Self-doubt and negative self-talk go hand in hand. They both entered my life together, and now I’m pushing them out together too.

The way we talk to ourselves matters. I stopped calling myself names, stopped criticising every little thing. Now I speak to myself with softness, with grace. I choose patience — even on my worst days. I choose to be my own safe space.

8. Trying to Be Perfect All the Time

If you’ve read this far, you’ve probably guessed that I was seen as “the perfect girl” — especially in school. I was the overachiever, the detailed thinker (hello INFJ brain), the one who got it all right.

So I believed that if I wasn’t perfect, I wasn’t enough.

But life taught me something else. Perfection isn’t peace. In fact, it’s exhausting. Now, I follow one simple truth: Done is better than perfect.

Something is always better than nothing. Progress matters more than flawless results.

Mini Reflection

Letting go of these habits was not easy. It took unlearning, reflection, and a lot of emotional honesty. But it was worth it. I feel lighter. Calmer. More me.

Becoming that girl doesn’t come from routines or aesthetics alone. It comes from protecting your peace, letting go of what no longer serves you, and embracing your own version of growth.

You don’t need to be her. You just need to be you — a little softer, a little wiser, and a lot more at peace.

Final Words

So if you're in the phase of becoming that girl, pause and ask yourself:

Am I doing this for me… or just to fit in?

Let go of what’s not aligned. Say goodbye to habits that hurt your energy. Because becoming that girl is not about being perfect — it’s about becoming real, grounded, and peaceful.

Sometimes the real glow-up is invisible. It's not in your outfit. It's in your energy.

FAQs

1. What does “That Girl” even mean?

Honestly, it’s not about being perfect. “That Girl” is just someone who takes care of herself—mind, body, and soul. She shows up for herself every day, even on the hard ones.

2. Is becoming That Girl all about how you look?

Not at all. I’ve learned it’s more about how you feel on the inside. Looking good is just a bonus that comes when you start caring for yourself in the right way.

3. Do I need a perfect morning routine to be That Girl?

Nope. You just need your own routine—something that works for you and makes you feel grounded. It’s about doing what makes you feel good, not copying someone else’s life.

4. How do I protect my peace while still trying to grow?

By letting go of what drains you. Protecting your peace isn’t selfish—it’s necessary. You grow best when you feel safe, calm, and supported… even if that support comes from yourself.

Your Turn

What’s one habit you’ve let go of that made you feel f

ree? Or maybe one you’re ready to release?

Tell me in the comments. I’d love to hear your story.

Let’s grow together. 

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