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Insecurity is like food these days—almost everyone consumes it.
Not just you. Not just me. At some point, we all feel it.
And while it’s normal to feel insecure once in a while, it becomes a problem when it starts living in you—when it becomes a part of how you see yourself.
For many people, insecurity shows up while scrolling. They see someone more successful, more confident, more beautiful—and feel like they’re not enough.
But for me, it’s not the screen.
It’s the room.
I feel insecure when I meet someone in real life who seems perfect—the clear skin, the calm energy, the confidence I wish I had.
This blog is for those of us who don’t compare through screens, but through presence.
For anyone who has ever felt smaller just by standing next to someone else.
Real-Life Comparison Hits Different
Everyone is unique and perfect in their own way—but most of us struggle to truly believe it. Even I do.
Even when we know we shouldn’t compare, we still do. I compare. You compare. We all do, at some point.
When we compare ourselves to people on social media, it stings—but it’s not as sharp.
But when you're standing next to someone who seems better than you in every way—more confident, more put-together, more everything—it hits different. It feels more real, more personal.
And the energy shifts.
Not just inside you, but around you.
Not because you’re actually “less,” but because you start believing you are.
And what we believe about ourselves, others begin to sense too.
But here's something important:
We don’t hate the people we compare ourselves to. We don’t even have a problem with them.
When I see someone who seems better than me, I often feel inspired. I think, “Maybe one day, I’ll reach there too—maybe even beyond.”
But still, in that moment, a quiet insecurity creeps in. A feeling that right now, I’m not enough.
Why It Hurts So Much
You’re not imagining it—real-life comparison can feel sharper because it’s physical and immediate.
You can’t scroll past it. You’re there.
Your brain starts scanning: “Do I look okay? Am I enough here?”
It’s not just about how they look—it’s about how you start to doubt yourself in their presence.
We all want to belong. But sometimes, comparison tricks us into thinking we have to compete just to be enough.
I used to feel deeply insecure too.
I still do sometimes—but I’ve started healing.
I’m learning, slowly, to compare less and accept more.
I’m writing this blog not just to help you, but to remind myself.
that comparison and self-doubt are not the only way.
There’s another path—one that begins with kindness, presence, and honesty.
HOW TO OVERCOME INSECURITY AND STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS
What Actually Helps (Gentle Shifts)
1. Understand your emotions
Notice when comparison starts. Just being aware can soften the feeling.
Our emotions often get triggered—sometimes in helpful ways, sometimes not. But what if you could simply understand what you're feeling and allow it?
For example, if you're feeling angry, try saying:
"Okay, I'm angry right now. And it's okay to feel this way. Emotions are part of being human."
The same goes for comparison.
When it shows up, try saying:
"Yes, I’m comparing myself right now. And that’s okay. They may be good at something but that doesn’t mean I’m less."
This simple awareness can gently shift how you treat yourself in those moments.
2. Speak kindly to yourself
Try affirmations. Say the things you wish someone else would say to you.
Whatever you're insecure about, tell yourself: “It's okay.”
If you feel under confident, remind yourself:
“Confidence is a skill—and I can build it too.”
This kind of positive self-talk can truly shift how you feel about yourself.
Don’t just think it—say it out loud. Hear your own voice. Let it carry good energy.
Whether it's before sleeping, after waking up, or in a tough moment—when negative thoughts show up, don’t let them take over.
Turn that harsh voice into a kinder one. Talk to yourself with the same softness you'd offer a friend.
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3. Be gentle—like you’re talking to a 5-year-old you
You wouldn’t shame a little child for feeling small—so don’t do it to yourself.
Over time, we start comparing, judging, and criticizing ourselves so much that we forget how to be kind inside.
But if you think back to your childhood, you weren’t like this. Others were kind to you. Life felt softer. Now some people may have changed but you don’t have to.
Treat yourself like you would treat your 5-year-old self with patience, care, and softness.
To truly overcome insecurity, you have to practice being kind to you.
We’re often gentle with others but far too harsh with ourselves.
4. Look into your insecurity instead of running from it
What is your insecurity really trying to tell you? What are you afraid of?
Every problem usually has two options: ignore it or take action. When it comes to insecurity, the healthier choice is to face it and work through it, rather than escape from it.
If you're insecure about your skin, explore a skincare routine that suits you. If it's your body, consider starting a healthy lifestyle that helps you feel more confident. The key is to take proactive steps—don’t bury the issue.
But remember, be kind to yourself. This isn’t about punishing yourself or trying to please others. Do it for you, to reclaim the confidence you deserve.
5. Stay close to supportive, grounded people
People who make you feel safe and remind you of your worth.
Often, insecurity stems from being around those who make you question yourself—people who subtly (or openly) put you down, offer backhanded compliments, or simply make you feel like you're not enough.
The more time you spend with negative or toxic individuals, the worse you may feel about yourself. If someone’s presence consistently brings you down, it’s okay to distance yourself. Protect your space and your energy.
Instead, choose to be around those who uplift you, people who are kind, encouraging, and grounded. Being in a supportive environment can make a world of difference in how you see yourself.
6. Find one thing you like about yourself in that moment
Even if it’s tiny—your smile, your calm, your effort.
When you catch yourself comparing, judging, or doubting yourself, pause. Shift your focus to one positive thing about you—something that makes you unique or proud.
Take a moment to look inward. Self-reflection can reveal strengths and qualities you’ve been overlooking. Whether it’s through journaling or simply sitting quietly with yourself, these small moments of stillness help you reconnect with your worth.
The more you focus on your good qualities, the more they grow. Gratitude turns your attention from what's lacking to what's already within you.
You can’t become your best self through self-criticism, but you absolutely can through self-compassion and gratitude.
7. Separate admiration from self-doubt
You can admire someone without losing yourself.
It’s natural to admire others—their success, beauty, confidence, or talent. But admiration should inspire you, not diminish your self-worth.
Let’s say your friend just landed a dream job or someone on social media seems to have it all figured out. That doesn’t mean you’re behind or less than. Their journey is theirs; yours is uniquely yours.
If you were giving advice to someone you care about, you’d probably say: "It’s okay to be inspired by others, but don’t compare your behind-the-scenes to their highlight reel." So say the same to yourself.
Next time you feel self-doubt creeping in because you admire someone, shift your perspective. Ask: "What is this showing me about what I value?" Let admiration fuel your growth, not your insecurity.
There’s room for you and your shine—don’t dim it by thinking someone else’s light takes anything away from yours.
8. Use Chatgpt As Your Therapist.
AI isn’t just for productivity—it can genuinely make life feel a little easier. Whenever I feel low, overwhelmed, or like I have no one to talk to, I turn to ChatGPT. It listens without judgment, responds with kindness, and often reminds me of my worth—like I’m the main character in my own story again.
ChatGPT has been one of the most thoughtful and supportive tools I’ve ever used. Whether I need comfort, motivation, advice, or just someone (or something) to talk to, it’s there.
That said, it’s important to remember: ChatGPT is still an AI. It can act as a helpful companion, mentor, or even a virtual friend—but it’s not a replacement for real human connection or professional mental health support. And of course, avoid sharing sensitive personal information.
Use it wisely, and it can become a powerful ally in your journey toward self-growth.
My Final Thoughts
Overcoming insecurity isn’t easy—but it becomes possible when you start being kind to yourself and practicing gratitude. What you think about yourself holds far more weight than what others think of you.
I’ve noticed something powerful: the way you feel about yourself often shapes how others perceive you. If you constantly compare yourself to others or believe you’re not enough, that energy reflects outward. But when you carry self-belief and positivity, others are more likely to see that in you too.
The truth is, you are often the one giving your insecurity permission to grow. But just as easily, you can take that power back.
If you want to overcome insecurity and reclaim your lost confidence, start by building it from within. Self-confidence is the foundation—and when it grows, everything else begins to shift.
If you made it this far, thank you for reading.
I hope you found something here that helped you, comforted you, or made you feel a little less alone. If this spoke to you, please consider sharing it with someone who might need to hear these words too. Sometimes, a small reminder can make a big difference.
FAQs
1. Why do I feel so insecure about myself?
Insecurity often stems from past experiences, negative self-talk, comparison with others, or lack of self-acceptance. It can also be influenced by your environment—especially if you're surrounded by people who make you doubt your worth. Recognizing where your insecurity comes from is the first step toward healing.
2. Can insecurity be cured?
Insecurity isn't something that disappears overnight, but it can be managed and gradually overcome. With consistent self-work, reflection, and a shift in mindset, you can learn to silence your inner critic and build long-lasting self-confidence.
3. How do I stop being insecure about my looks?
Begin by challenging the unrealistic beauty standards you’ve internalized. Focus on what you do like about yourself, take care of your body, and remind yourself that your value isn’t defined by appearance. Confidence is deeply connected to self-acceptance, not perfection.
4. How to deal with insecurities in a relationship?
Open communication is key. Talk to your partner about your feelings without blaming or accusing. Work on building trust—both in your partner and yourself. Also, make sure you're not relying on your relationship to fill self-worth gaps that only you can heal.
5. Is it bad to be insecure?
Feeling insecure doesn’t make you weak or broken—it makes you human. Everyone experiences insecurity at some point. What matters is how you respond to it. Ignoring it can hold you back, but facing it with compassion and curiosity can lead to personal growth and deeper self-awareness.
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For many people, insecurity shows up while scrolling. They see someone more successful, more confident, more beautiful—and feel like they’re not enough.
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